Learn to be smart. These 8 feelings should be kept aloof.
The two take turns to play the role of pursuit and being pursued, but if one party always plays the role of pursuer, such a relationship is not sound, and in the long run, you will cause love to thirst, you will feel controlled by the other, you will feel angry, deceived,pain.
First, you care more about each other. You are in love, but you are not sure what the other person thinks; you think you are suitable, he seems to disagree; he is not “if the two do not agree, how can they go together?
“Sometimes one side loves the other vertical. If it is in a healthy relationship, there will be an alternating phenomenon. The two people take turns to play the role of pursuit and being pursued; but if one of them always plays the pursuit, such feelingsUnsound, for a long time, you fall into thirst, you will feel controlled by the other party, you will feel angry, cheated, and pain.
Second, what you love is the potential of the other person. What you love is the potential of the other person, not what the other person really looks like. What you love is what the other person may look like in the future. Then he is not your partner or even the object of your transformation.
Every time we do pre-marriage counselling, if the other party will not change for 50 years, will you be satisfied?
If you have always wanted to be able to change each other and you feel more satisfied, it is not love, but crumbs, and the happiness of both parties is used as a bet.
When you associate with a person, you must love and respect each other’s true nature, not his future appearance. You can expect him to continue to grow, but you must be satisfied with his current appearance.
Third, do you want to help the other side Do you often feel that the other side is poor?
Do you feel it is your responsibility to help the other person cheer up?
Are you afraid that if you leave the other party, he will not be able to take the blow?
If so, you’re probably a “savior.”
”Salvation” will not find a suitable person, or a person whom he sympathizes with and can help.
Find someone who has been traumatized, vulnerable, dependent, unloved, and aggrieved. You are loved by pity. He pointed out that you are grateful. This feeling is like a rescue task, not a healthy, balanced one.
The key to keep in mind here is “respect”. The person you love must be someone you can respect. You must be proud of the other person. Your partner does not want your rescue, and even wants you to really understand him.
Fourth, regard each other as the object of worship. Young female stars fall in love with directors, college students fall in love with professors, secretaries fall in love with bosses, and fall in love with objects they admire.equality.
Both men and women must be treated equally. I don’t mean a part, otherwise the attitude should not overly worship each other.
People who fall in love with the person they admire often have low self-confidence and feel bad about themselves.
Fifth, you’re just attracted to each other’s appearance. Everyone will be like this, right?
If you find yourself deeply attracted by one of the other characteristics, ask yourself, if the other person does not have those big blue eyes, magnetic sounds . If the other person is not a model, he will not play basketball .Will he be with him (her)?
Man appearance is the first strength.
Sixth, the opportunity to get along shortly night and night You share the work with the other party, often have to work overtime together, so you feel in love with the other party .
When you go on vacation for three weeks and meet a man who is also on vacation, you feel like falling in love .
A short day and night together means that it is not a routine to get together under special circumstances. This feeling cannot last, because a short day and night together cannot make you fully understand each other’s personality.
Seven, I chose this object for rebellion. Parents always point out to you. Find a rich object. Every boyfriend is poor. Everyone has been strict with you since childhood. Every girlfriend is very casual.My father has been killing his ears since childhood. Passing incense is the most important thing. It ‘s because your girlfriend is either unable or unwilling to give birth . If you replace the subject and always make your parents angry, it is likely that you just want to be rebellious. You feel certainTo prove what comes back, when you can’t control your choice, you don’t really love each other, this relationship is doomed to no effect.
Eight, the other party is not free. I leave this to the end because it is not a relationship at all.
The first reason to choose a life partner is because the other person is “free”.
“Freedom” means people who can associate with you freely, without marriage, without engagement, without a fixed partner, without going to bed with others, single, and only with you.
If the man you fell in love promises to break up with another woman earlier; or he says he doesn’t love that woman, he loves you; or his original object accepts your existence, they don’t plan to break up, but he wants to break up withYou’ve been together for a while; or he just broke up, but he might break through the mirror . these are not free.
Don’t associate with married or targeted people, no matter what the excuse, the result is the same, you are destined to be heartbroken.
Don’t forget, you just accepted the leftover from another person.
The choice is yours, the responsibility lies with you, you have to choose the right person.
If you have a contact, and you are one of the eight relationships above, go to counseling, don’t waste time, and there are better targets waiting for you.